[Jillalan]

I'm glad I happened upon your post. I'm an adoptee and birth parent.

I would write a letter if you have your daughters address. Make it registered so you know when it's received. Maybe signature required - although you won't know if your daughter has actually received it if her aparents don't give it to her.

Tell her you would love contact, whenever she's ready. Include, facebook, phone number, email address - any method of contact that's available to you. Tell her a little about your circumstances. With luck she will have the letter given to her by her aparents.

As for what you've said about your agency, I would NOT bother with them. It's obvious they are NOT in your court.

I would have loved for my bmom to contact me. She didn't, but I have been found by my siblings. She was open to communication (she's deceased now) but felt I should do the searching/contacting?!

I searched and contacted my birth child - it was a closed adoption. Best thing I ever did.

As for facebook. How do you know she's on there if you can't find her? As for the siblings - if you don't hear from your daughter you could always post to them asking to forward a message.

Sorry you've had to wait so long for replies - but now it's coming up I'm sure you'll get many more.

And YES post in the b-mom section, much more likely to get response.

I sincerely hope that you are able to get in touch.