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imprttuner2- you are just the sweetest thing! I have stayed in touch with my agency- updating contact info with every move or email change. Problem is, my best friend has done the same thing, and when her birthdaughter called our social worker to get the info, she lied to her and said her bmom "dissappeared" after the papers were signed. They later met on facebook and we were all shocked at the dishonesty of the woman who was our lifeline to our first borns and first loves. The same could've happened to me for all I know- I've asked the social worker, but she has only trashed the aparents and said they were jealous and posessive and she probably never would hear from my daughter, as her parents would never support it. Can't trust her though- it all is so unprofessional. I didn't realize at 16 that you should never have the same person represent both sides of an adoption! About your bmom- lots of us were sooooo heavily counseled against contacting you kids and messing up your lives- it seems a lot of times the kids have to work way too hard to convince them that a relationship is a good thing for you. I can't help feeling that the delicate dance we all do (not dissimilar to the dating dance), trying to not scare each other off, not being honest and openly communicating our hopes and intentions- what a mess. It's just life right- we are all just trying to keep what's important as a priority, and there is nothing more than family. Circumstances created a larger family for you and I- one that stretches in directions most don't, but if we embrace that instead of fear it I think we would all have a better run on this planet.-- I'll shut up now- I can really ramble (and spell poorly)!
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