[thelowlanders]

I like those ideas Flipping it sounds like what I try to do.

Just a side note on the running, I "run" I guess. I was adopted and worked through alot. Then had a hot tempered Adopt. Dad. He was never physical, just got really, really mad and wanted to be right all the time. I learned to "run" to let everyone cool off. Then talk later. I still do this. If everyone is all hyped up, I leave the situation informing them that when they're ready (or I'm ready) to have a decent convo, let me know. I was going to say oh you're wrong, I didn't do it for control. But I did. Just ina good way. Not to control and be right, but to control the situation from getting worse.