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Our daughter was 16 months old when we adopted her, and we had not met her prior to the adoption. She grieved the first couple of nights, but survival mode kicked in after the first hour with us, and she adjusted rapidly.
Some babies are fussy and some are not. It depends on the baby's personality and if he's colicky. I don't personally think being fussy is a sign that he does not like you or is not bonding with you.
Bonding is something that happens over time, IMO. The child latches on to anyone who feeds and takes care of it, and nurtures it. Bonding happens after the same person does that, time and time again for the child. As for what will help the bonding; giving him a bottle with close eye to eye contact. Holding him in your lap facing you and cooing at him, rocking him, touching him, and stroking his skin often will both soothe him and allow bonding.
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Karen
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11/25/04 Decision to adopt our first daughter
03/14/05 LID for our first daughter
01/29/06 Referral for our first daughter
(total time from LID to referral-10.5 months)
03/20/06 Our first daughter in our arms
12/12/06 Decision to adopt again
04/14/07 LID for our second daughter
04/14/08 ONE year waiting
09/1/08 Re-submitted paperwork before it expired
04/14/09 TWO years waiting
04/27/09 Out of review room 
06/14/09 Fingerprinted again, before they expired
Still waiting...
How long is forever? -381 LIDs till our referral- That's how long forever is!
We've been waiting 31 months since our Log-In-Date with China
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