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kellyd-
I am a reunited adoptee and a bmom. I agree with pp, too. As an adoptee, I would have loved nothing more than my bmom contacting me as I have felt the need to know her as long as I can remember. As a bmom, however, I posted in registries and waited. I had no idea where to even start to look, or how. My bdaughter is now 26. With the advent of the internet, things are changing; and, I would agree that Facebook and myspace are certainly avenues to connect that weren't available in the past. Would it hurt? maybe if she wasn't told she was adopted. But, if she knows, then it may be the answer to her prayer for reunion. It is the same gamble whether you make contact first or she contacts you fearing rejection. It takes an immense amount of courage and emotional preparation. Looking back, was I ready for contact at 18? Knowing what I do now, maybe. Since it didn't happen until I was 30, it would be very hard to say.
Good luck to you, whatever you decide.
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Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2 (New King James)
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