[anilorak13ska]

I'd like to just chime in here. 1. your little boy is darling. 2. I think we all have some stereotyped ideas of what each of the races looks like, and when we come accross someone that has slightly different features, we are curious.

I personally don't take offense to the term "mixed". I'm CC (but I don't identify as mainstream "white" bc I was born in Poland and immigrated here as a child). My DH is Latino. We are a mixed couple, though often folks assume I'm H when with him (I do speak Spanish).

I have a close friend who is CC and is very intrigued by people's backgrounds. It fascinates her to notice various facial features and attribute them to certain ethnicities. She likes to notice (and yes, point out) people with "interesting faces" because she thinks it helps to acknowledge the variety among people. She doesn't do it out of malice at all. One culture/race she is just fascinated with is NA, and if she could change to BE NA, I think she would! (I'm equally intrigued about people myself, but not nearly as gutsy as her to just approach people.)

I always read how this is a question to worry about and prepare for for aparents, but I don't see the problem in it as long as it's asked in a respectful way and a valid reason is given. Had dh and I had bio kids, I'd want them to be recognized as "mixed", but honestly, they'd just "pass" for Hispanic and my heritage would be left out.

(Since "Hispanic" is not considered a race but an ethnicity, saying "biracial" would not really be accurate, so what else would you use? Even with my dogs, one of whom is definitely a mix of 2 breeds, calling her "mixed" is one thing, but calling her a "mutt" is what Peeves me off.)

Now that we're adopting, I'm hoping for a child whose background is "interesting" for lack of a better term. I would rather not adopt as "full CC" child bc I'm Polish and my dh is Latino. I say let's keep it interesting in the family!

I'm glad to hear in all of your responses here that generally you don't take offense to the question itself. I was a bit worried about my friend!