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Originally Posted by denham
I would really like to hear from some of you who felt at one point that fostering/adopting was not right for you. We have only reached our 4th day together and I wonder if I am not cut out for this.
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I had a moment about a week in this placement (after a long break) when I thought, "hmmmm, I could be in the Highlands right now. I could be at the British Museum......I could be in anywhere but here--and nobody would would bit, pinch or hit me!" Then I picked up the phone and made THE call. Only to dial right back and said no don't come get him.
The first two weeks are always the worst. The transitions, the social workers, the child's adjustment, the social workers, the visits and more social workers. It just doesn't feel like "family"....and I at least felt like every move I made was measured against some standard I couldn't and didn't want to met....and I didn't particulary want to parent this great kid who had pinchy fingers, sharp teeth and a great aim. But things did and do get better. The child becomes a person and not a task. The system butts out, at least enough so you can breathe without a social worker asking why. It just becomes normal---and you have successes and mistakes like any other normal family.