[bromanchik]

I could not have said this better. This girl deserves the truth.

Originally Posted by SuddenlySusan

I feel for you...and I can't imagine being in your position. I'll probably get flamed for this, however... I think I'd be having another phone call with the amom.

You deserve to be treated better than this. I think a date needs to be set, otherwise...well, like you said...if the amom couldn't find a good time in the past 18 years to tell your daughter she was adopted -- knowing full well that she had agreed to do so -- just WHEN will a good time be?

If the amom can't bring herself to do the honorable thing, suggest that she arrange a counseling session and have a therapist help her through it.

And, you might consider setting a definitive date for you and your husband to meet with the aparents and work out your issues before you meet your daughter. It is unfortunate that the aparents betrayed you, but it would be best for your daughter if she wasn't put in the middle of this.

Again, I'm so sorry that you are being treated in such an undeserving manner. My son's amom told him at a young age that he was adopted...she also told him everything she knew about me. When I read about situations such as yours, I become ever more grateful that she was a woman of honor.

Best wishes,
Susan