JustPeachy: What you said about being strung along? That was exactly what I gleaned from the way things were worded during our conversation. I definitely didn't get the feeling they planned to really tell her anytime soon, and I think they could have gone the rest of their lives without telling her and they would have been fine with that.
I am glad I made the call if for nothing else than to know where we stand. And I'm glad she didn't just hang up on me like she very much could have. Other than that, it's devastating
I can't imagine how E. will take the news if/when they ever decide to tell her. All those years with every adult around you knowing but you have no idea. This was never what we wanted for her.