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I had no idea that my question would generate such a response, but I thank you as this conversation has been very informative for me. I think I have a better idea how to handle the situation now.
Just to share briefly, J is now five but has been with us since two and a half. She does know she is adopted, but of course I don't consider that to be anyone else's business. We do have a new birth certificate for her. We have put off getting the card because she still needs to be adopted by me, technically only my partner adopted her, but with her going to kindergarten soon, I don't want a bunch of old information floating around out there.
J's b-mom and b-mom's husband have used her on any number of occassions to get benefits and who knows what else. I am planning to send off a request to have her credit checked. I'm worried about proving that this needs to be done since it can be so hard to get evidence, but I do have some evidence that backs up my claim that they often used the kids to get services, even after they were taken. Furthermore, both b-mom and her husband have a lengthy history of SS fraud, but of course the SSA never actually gets around to investigating anything; even when there is solid proof. Also there was abuse, and there have been kidnapping threats in the past. I'd just rather deal with this now while she is so young that when she's older and actually might encounter problems.
Amy
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