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August - I understand where you are coming from as an adoptee myself. Beleive me all the feelings you are going through I and most adoptees have gone through too. I did not have the best life growing up but I guess it could have been worse compared to other adoptees that i've talked too. I felt uncomfortable growing up when kids would start talking about their heritage. I had none but I took on my aparents heritage anyway just for the sake of being a part of the conversation. I cringed everytime I went to a new doctor when they would ask my medical history. How embarrasing that was. I found my bparents 4 years ago. I had a chance to talk to my bmom but I have never met her just in pictures. She is not someone I want a relationship with but at least I got some information and family history from her. My bdad passed away in 2001 but I got alot of family and medical history from his side of the family. The only thing I want to say is think about what you want from your bparents when you start searching. My other advice is to find a search angel to help with your search. I found my bparents through one of them. I don't know the name of the one who helped me but if you ask on here someone maybe be able to help you or just go to the internet and type in "search angel". Anyway I wish you the best in your search and if I can be of any assistance, you can "PM' anytime. If anything I am here for support. Take care and God bless!
Oh by the way you have the right to be angry just don't let it consume you which sounds like you haven't. Don't let anyone tell you you don't have the right to you biological history afterall everyone else has theirs. You have two history's one on adoptive side and one biological.
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