[lotsa_love_2give]

I guess the hardest part is answering the same ol questions all of the time!

#1- Who is her real mom? - This is fine as long as I have not told this same person a million times that I prefer "birthmom" over real mom, and secondly some things are my daughers business not everone elses!!

#2- Is that your foster daughter? Nope, she's mine!! (funny look on their face) Is she your real daughter? What is it with that word!!!? LOL REAL?! Yep she is real and she is my daughter!

#3- Where did you get her?

#4- When are you going to go get another one?


I know that not everyone is educated in adoption and all the acceptable words, but to me it's not about WHAT they ask but HOW they ask it.

I had a Sunday School class today where my daughter was. We are kinda new around here and my DD was getting cranky. One little girl said, I think she wants her Mommy. I said, I am her mommy. Another girl said, you don't look like her. I said, nope we look different, but she's my daughter. That was enough for them... the next thing was... can you hand me a marker? lol

I try not to let ignorant things bother me. A relative of mine last year told everyone that my dd's fav. food was fried chicken and watermelon, when we don't eat fried food and she hates watermelon. I told them it was racist and they got upset..... o well..

I can handle all the ignorant people because I've been preparing for this for a long time, but I worry about when my dd is old enough to understand what these people are saying or worse if they say things to her when I'm not around!!

But in the end, just remember that this is all part of life when building your family through adoption and then adding transracial adoption to the mix.