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Hello, my name is Gail (36) and DH is Dan (31) we've been trying to conceive for over three years now with two miscarriages and two failed IVF cycles. We will be starting our third IVF cycle near the end of this month.

The reason I am here is because on Friday afternoon DH and I received a surprising phone call that we never expected. My niece lives in GA with her husband and their three children (ages 3, 2, and three months) on a military base. She went to the Dr. to get her IUD and discovered that she is pregnant with number 4! She said that she is neither financially or physically able to care for another child (her and her husband agree) and she knows how much Dan and I have been through, and she wanted to know if we would be willing to adopt the baby when it is born. Her husband is being deployed to Iraq very soon for at least one year, so that makes it even harder for her to have another little one. DH and I discussed this over and over through the night, and during the day yesterday coming to the conclusion that this is a blessing being dropped in our hearts and hands. We WANT to do this, we are excited, but scared. We talked to my niece again yesterday afternoon telling her that we definitely want to do this, but we know we need to speak to an attorney who specializes with adoptions and get as many answers as we possibly can.

Can somebody please tell me what DH and I should expect over the next 9 months while waiting for the baby to arrive? We will be contacting the attorney we found tomorrow morning in hopes of getting a consultation appointment ASAP. My niece has offered to move to PA or MD so that she can be closer to us during the pregnancy and for the birth. Please any input will be greatly appreciated!