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Old 07-04-2009, 11:34 AM
BethUtah BethUtah is offline
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Give yourself some time

There is a lot to get used to when your first placement arrives, especially if you don't already have kids. For me, the first days and weeks can feel more like a job than a family, but it always gets better. It takes time for the child to love you, and time for you to love the child as well.

Take care of yourself first because this child can't bond to a stressed, unhappy parent. Then try to see what activities you and your FD enjoy doing together. If you can find things you both enjoy doing like swimming, reading, or art projects, then the two of you will begin to build positive memories together and to associate your time together with good feelings.

Good luck!
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