[dklevy]

No I haven't let them know that bdad has the info. I never heard from them and promised not to write again since they weren't the ones who gave me their address - I found it through an internet search. I read the letter he is sending. It's very respectful and not at all imposing.

I find it hard to put myself in their shoes so I don't always know what to do. I could never see myself stopping all contact with a child's parents. But at the same time it may be SE's actions that brought it about. I know it will all become clear someday. Just wish someday was now.