[snuffie]

I was okay with being a medical "blank slate" for most of my life. But in the past few years I have had a number of very serious, life-threatening illnesses. Recently I have been having some very disturbing symptoms which have puzzled the docs and have sent me to the hospital.

I know my medical history on my bmom's side but my bdad eludes me. The man who I think is my bdad is very elderly although when he sent his last letter (telling me he isn't my bdad) a few years ago he was very lucid. I know he has been married for many years and doesn't want his life disrupted and I understand that especially at his age. But...I also need to know if I should be aware of something "lurking" in my background - something that would be helpful not only to my doctors but also for my children and grandchild. One of the other big issues is that I'm not absolutely certain this man is my bdad. There are several reasons (besides what my heart tells me) to believe that he is but what if he isn't and I ruin his life at this stage of the game?

Any thoughts would be very welcome!

Snuffie