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I have come to adoption after having my bio kids a long time ago. My "first kids" are 25, 22, 21, and 13. Bubba, 5, and Flower Girl, 3, have joined our family through foster care. We should finalize before the month is out.
Maybe it's because I have biokids already, or maybe not, but I just never put that big of a premium on whether or not my kids shared my genetics. After we tried to have our first one, and it seemed to take quite awhile to get pregnant, we talked about adoption. But, as soon as I "learned" how to get pregnant, I didn't have any more trouble! So, adoption went on the back burner.
Now we're at a time in our lives where we have plenty of room in our home for more kids, but the inability to conceive them. So, we went into fostering to be able to help kids. Our goal was NOT adoption, just having kids in our home.
And then Bubba and Flower Girl arrived and things changed.
Honestly, I love them every bit as much as my bios. They're pretty spectacular kids, if I do say so myself. The only difference for me is that I don't have the memories of their baby years. Their first mom has those. It makes me feel a little selfish for wanting that as well. I mean, I have the kids. But, still.
For us, it doesn't feel different. In fact, as the adoption date gets closer, I have that feeling of anticipation I did when my due date got closer. How strange--and wonderful--is that?
I hope you find the answers you are seeking. This is a great place to look!
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