[wantonemore]

Were you ever able to maintain concact? If so, how did it work, short term and long term?

My two went home on Thursday.

With the caseworkers permission, I sent a note/card home to the bio-mom. It was difficult to be able to write it in a way that was positive (because I was not thrilled about the enviroment the kids were returning to) while still being honest. A carefull choice of words.

In brief, I told her I have thought about her much in the last couple of months. That I knew it was a difficult time for her. That I wish her and her family the best. And, that if ever, with her permission and her blessing) the kids wanted to call and tell me how they were doing, I would welcome that. And, with some reservation, included my phone number (whcih Mr. M already knew)

I expected nothing more to come of it. I expected bio-mom to view me as an enemy. After all, I had her kids when she didn't, and I am associated with the government agency that took her kids.

Imagine my suprise when Mr. M called me yesterday. I was thrilled. I miss them so much. Great to hear his voice. I told him to give little Miss a hug from me, and his Mom too. I also told him to tell Mom that she could call me if she needed someone to watch them/take care of them.

Thoughts? I feel like this is a fine line to walk. Did I do the right thing? Could this somehow come back to bite me?

I really want these kids to know that somone still continues to care. They have been in care more than once, I don't know if they will be again... and would just like to know how they are doing and to be there for them in anyway I can...