[kakuehl]

Have you sent a note to aparents letting them know bdad has the info and definitely has medical info to share? I would think just letting them know "here I am if/when you are open to a relationship or need info, etc." would be helpful. (But I'm a bmom so what do I know, lol.)

Like you, I did not want to marry D's bdad. I didn't even tell him about D until after D was born and by that time he was married to someone else. We pretty much kept in touch his whole life. (He died of cancer in 2000.) Since we were all in college together my DH knew him too. (Ironically, my DH was a friend of Bdad's first wife.) I only wish he had lived long enough to meet D.