[QueenLoser]

Today husband told me about a strange conversation he had with a friend, and it's opening up a whole area of thought I had never considered possible.

The friend is married, and he and his wife had their first child in December. Apparently, they aren't handling things well financially, and have stripped down their budget to bare minimum in order to survive. They would be alright, except that the wife came up pregnant again almost immediately and they don't know what they are going to do.

When my husband heard that the wife was pregnant again, he jokingly said "if it's another girl, we'll take it," and the friend said, in all seriousness, "deal."

Clearly, we need to spend a lot of time talking to this couple about it if this is something we're really going to do, but I'm not really clear on what the adoption process would be like if it does. Clearly there is no agency involved, and the child would never have been in foster care...help?

Why military forum, you ask? Both of the husbands involved are in the Army, and the friend, his wife, and the first daughter will shortly be PCSing to Korea for the next couple of years.

Any advice, information, or personal stories would be VERY welcomed. Thank you!