[kakuehl]

Buttoneyes, maybe I should be grateful for the same thing. After all my mom didn't plan to get pregnant when she did; she didn't want to have a baby then. She didn't consider abortion any more than I did 21 years later. (Trust me, abortions were possible before Roe v. Wade, and not only in back alleys!) Not all bmoms have had to be talked out of abortions; in fact, many, if not most, would not consider abortion an option for themselves. Someone on the forums came up with the phrase, "not planned, but not prevented." That describes the birth of both myself and my bson. Neither of us has the need to be grateful for being allowed to be born. Both of us had mothers who loved us unconditionally and wanted the best for her child. By the way, adoptees are as deserving of life as any other person. You are a unique creation of God.