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cac_li :
There's really nothing to worry about with your new son. As long as you are supportive and open (Like any parent actually) you will raise a confident child.
I am an adult adoptee who is very happy with my family. My parents never made it an issue, it was always other people making it an issue when it's never been for us. I'm glad I got the parents I did, I wouldn't trade them for anything. There is no "Primal Wound" here. While the dynamics in families vary greatly, I believe it is mostly the therapists, counselors and psychologists that create the issues outside of the normal emotions expected with adoption, which can run pretty deep as they have with me. Some people will write anything about everything if it gets them a book deal. The trick is not to fall into the trap of believing everything you read. The best indicator is other people who have been there and can share from their own direct experiences. I've never in my almost 50 years have ever met anyone in real life (including myself) that have had this "Primal Wound". While the author may not agree with me, I speak from experience when I say: "It all depends on the upbringing of the child and the family dynamics that shape our attitudes in life".
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