[N.Gwinn]

I can certainly see this one from both sides and understand the confusion on your end. I think that I fall in line with the rest of the posters, though. Go ahead and include the picture, now. She will see it as a fact now, or as a secret you kept from her later. I have a friend who was adopted and the adoption was a secret. He thought he was a bio child until he was in his 20's and it is the secret that did the damage he struggles most to forgive. I know that you are very open about the adoption, and it is just the physical picture you are thinking about, so it is not nearly as big a thing.