[chickymum]

I would think its a big risk, especially since your younger child is disabled. I don't know your child but this can be seen as a weakness for the older/troubled child to feel he/she can be powerful against. Many of these kids are looking for a way to have some control in their messed up world.

Also Being an attorney or any kind of worker for troubled teens is very different from parenting them. They love to feel close to outsiders but parents, in their experience are bad, and therefore they have a very different relationship.

JMO