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Originally Posted by jmac66
I do not mean any disrespect to those adoptees out there who feel the primal wound but is there anyone else out there who actually likes being adopted? I actually bragged about it growing up. If someone said I was a "mistake" I said " No my parents pick me, yours just had sex. R u sure ur not a mistake?" And my a fam is nuts  so I was glad I wasnt genetically related to them sometimes esp when disease came up. Besides when I fought with my parents as a teen I could always daydream about "my real parents and how they would understand me!" Very comforting.
I always felt special being adopted and quite frankly being "found" has taken some of the mystery/fun out of things. |
Hi jm,
I am like you. I have never experienced any ill effects from being adopted. I was/am proud of it. My family was thrilled to get me and I have never experienced any issues of feeling different or that I do not belong.
It is funny because while I was growing up, my parents were the most loving amongst my friends. I would be in shock when I would listen to the stories of my friends ,where their mothers and/or fathers clearly put other things before their children. I was number one with my parents from day one and it continues that way, 42 years later.
I am in reunion and have experienced feelings and issues I did not expect, but I have grown from the experience and it has really helped me to have a full story now. No more mystery.
I have always felt proud about being adopted. When I was little, I would tell my mom and dad how lucky they were to have gotten me...and they agreed...and still do!! I love them 100%. ( oh...I love my birthmom too
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Everyone has a story and being adopted is a part of mine. But like other things, it does not define who I am. It is just a part of my story.
I do recognize many adoptees do not feel the same and my heart breaks for them. I can see how it can be a painful issue for some adoptees.
Kim