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Old 07-02-2009, 02:42 AM
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You have to put aside the anger for what she did to your son. It will only hurt him more if you label her as a bad person. She gave you the most precious gift which is your son and she is part of him and he part of her. To talk badly about his biomom will hurt him. You can speak of people you don't believe made the right choices positively. Just remember when he grows up he may want to seek out this biomom or he may not. You have to be there to support him and be positive about it. You cannot erase who he is or where he came from by removing a name or trying to remove his past so please do it with an open mind.

We changed our daughters middle name to her original last name and then gave her our last name. Since her original last name was also a regular name it worked out and her middle name sounds like a normal middle name plus it gives her alittle part of who she is.
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1st MAPP class: 9/9/2006
MAPP class completed: 9/30/2006
Home study completed: 11/2006
Home study submitted for approval: 11/14/2006
Foster License approved! 11/22/2006
Flew to visit Niece for 3 wks 3/2007
Judge rules placement with us 5/2007

Leaving to bring Niece home 6/15/2007
Niece is offically part of our family 6/30/2007
TPR Bio Dad by default 8/9/2007
TPR Bio Mom voluntary surrender 8/9/2007
Adoption subsidy agreement approved and signed 05/2008

Adoption finalization date 7/18/2008! YEAH





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