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When i first started foster/adopt when I was married, my daughter was 14. It was important for me to have her on board since she had always been an only child. Our first placement was a 6 week old boy whom she absolutely loved. He ended up going back home. We then were foster/adopt a sib group ages 3 and 6. She was great with the 3 yr old boy but not the 6 yr old boy. We didn't adopt for special circumstances not related to our daughter. I then became a foster/adopt parent after I divorced. I have fostered 4 children, the 2 I have now are my first two placements and 2 were temp until moved to a placement with their siblings. My first placement a 2 1/2 yr old boy I won't be adopting for reasons both of us have and the other a 11 month old boy that I've had since he was 4 weeks I am adopting at the end of August. My now 17 yr old daughter has been on board the whole time. I personally wouldn't foster or adopt if she was not ok with it. I feel since she came first and has been an only child all her life she deserves a voice in the matter. I never wanted to alienate my daughter just because I wanted another child. If she had not been on board then I would have waited until she was on her own.