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Would you adopt if your bio children did not want you to?
We have two bio daughters (14 & 15) who were supportive of the idea of fostering; however, the reality seems to be a different story. We were placed with a sibling group of two boys, ages 4 and 9 about a month ago. The girls have been having a hard time getting used to having the boys around. They understand that we are doing a good thing for the boys and they have empathy for the boy's situation, but they just wish some other family could do it and we could have a peaceful house again. The 4 year old will be moving in a couple of weeks with his paternal grandmother, but all indications are that the 9 year old will not be reunified with his mom and will be available for adoption. (I know that seems premature, but this is the second time the boys are in care within a year and mom is not working her case plan and has only 6 months to complete it.) DSS is pushing us to agree to adopt, but our daughters are adamant that they do not want us to adopt him.
I am torn because I don't want to do anything to harm my bio daughters; however, I really feel that God has placed this boy in our lives to be part of our forever family. Anyone who had older bios when you began fostering...how long was the adjustment period for them and how much consideration did you give to their opinions?
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