The best site for protocols on adoptive breastfeeding are
Ask Lenore ~ Home Page and
kellymom :: Breastfeeding and Parenting . The asklenore one has the protocols and the kelly mom one has other info. The best birth control I think is Yasmin and you take Domperidone with that....you don't take any of the placebos but just the active pills (so you don't take the last week....you just move straight to the next pack without skipping days. Once you quit the BC pills, then you start pumping and taking Fenugreek and Blessed Thistle with it if you want. Doing the pill things would make it to where you didn't have to pump at work for now. You could stay on that until you are amtched and then pump, you stay on it until you get baby and use an SNS or a Lactaid to nurse directly at the breast with formula until your milk comes in. Lots of options. Only you know if this is something that is important enough to you to do no matter what people think. My mom was negative too, even though she breastfed us all. It turned out she was negative, because she was afraid it wouldn't work and I would be devastated, instead of elated with my new baby. If you decide you really want to do this, it might be worth it to sit down with your mom and talk...if she is being negative just because she doesn't like it, you can make it clear that you won't listen to comments such as those....so she needs to keep them away from you. Hugs as you make your decision. If you have more questions..just ask!