[kakuehl]

Mike,
It is good to read your update. Slow is good. Take the time to build trust. I think your story is a good example about how many of us mature as we age. I personally am not the same person I was at 21 when I gave birth to the son I placed. In addition, I was in contact with D's bdad until he died and had the privilege of watching him grow as a person as well. Unfortunately, D will never meet him because he died in 2000. I think it is often hard for bparents when they have had no contact since the placement of their children. They remember the other as they were then and often have a difficult time realizing that people do change.

I hope your wife will come to peace with the understanding that your bson has a part of your heart too. A relationship with him will actually make you a whole person!

God be with you all!