|
What would you have said?
This is a conversation that I had recently with a good friend of mine.
Me: Husband and I have been talking about baby names.
Him: Oh yeah? Which ones have you talked about?
Me: (listing several names, some traditional and some unusual. I said another rather unusual one. . . )
Him: That sounds like a black girl's name.
Me: (pause) Uhh. . .do you realize what you just said?
Him: Yeah, that name sounds like a good one for a black girl.
Me: Have you forgotten who you are talking to?
Him: What?
Me: Remember? We ARE adopting transracially, and probably will be parents of an African American child.
Him: Yeah. (pause) Oh. . .
In the moment, I just didn't know what else to say! What would you have said? (If it matters, this is a friend who has been absolutely supportive of our adoption journey, including deciding to adopt transracially.)
__________________
Nov. 08 Met with 2 agencies. Decided on one. Want to save/earn the adoption fees without incurring any debt if possible. Will wait until April to apply. Praying, praying, praying!
Dec. 08 Got foster parent license. First placement FS 7
Mar. 09 Second placement! FS 2-mo. (RU a couple weeks later)
Apr. 09 Attended adoption agency orientation meeting. Still working on saving the adoption fees.
Jun. 09 Soooo close to getting "signed up" with agencies.
|