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Originally Posted by quantum
Hi Jason!
What you guys need to focus on is yourselves and your child. That's it.
Peachy has some great advice, looking into different options, not making any final decisions...allow yourselves this, because it's the best thing you can do!
One thing to bear in mind is that adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary situation. Sure, you're in school now, but if you have help available, you can finish school, go on to college, give your daughter everything she needs and more. Love is very important and it sure sounds like you've got that!
Another thing to bear in mind is that it can be tricky with adoption agreements. They are not legally enforcable in most states. I've heard nightmare stories about in-family adoptions that have become closed. I'm not saying that's the situation with you guys, but it's something to think about.
As to your parents...I relinquished my son 24 years ago, found him two years ago. They STILL make it about themselves! It may seem harsh, but their stuff is their stuff and THEY have to get beyond it, you need to do what's right for you.
Keep us informed! I wish you all the best.
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The quote in red is so important! Recovering from adoption is so hard... really, I don't think it is possible to recover. Think about this. When your DD is 5, you will be 5 years older and in a much better place financially to give her what she needs to start school! If you do choose adoption, please don't try and keep your ID secret. Secrets hurt.
I also think it is great you are taking such an interest and are researching what is best for you, your girlfriend and the baby. Please keep us informed.