Another thought (sorry, last one!). Just as you say there is no way a family member cannot be found for a child, this is sadly not always true. For instance, we had wanted to adopt a pair of brothers from another state, but they have an arrangment with a relative where they visit regularly. This relative has no interest in adopting the boys. This is what upset me - if they are so close with the boys, if they care so much about them that it's limiting the families that can be considered for them, then why aren't THEY adopting their nephews/etc.?
Another scenario is with immigrant families. Many are isolated in this country, with only parents and children here. So if the children must be removed from the parents, they have no where else to go, unless you send them back to their original country, which I do not advocate, especially if the child has been raised here.
Ok, good night then 
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Karolina
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Hoping to adopt Hispanic or multiracial  or  under age 5
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11/29/1998~met soulmate 
5/8/03~Married DH 
May '08~Start Adoption journey
Oct 22, '08~Homestudy complete
Dec '08-July '09 ~ match w/ 2 bmoms, both fall through 
March 25 - April 25 ~ fost/adopt orientation, PRIDE training
July ~ officially licensed foster parents 
Sept 14 ~ foster care orientation at next county over
Sept 28 ~  "V" coming to stay with us for a while!
Dec 11 ~ Baby V's disposition hearing
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Lil Guy
November '08 ~ meet w/ gma but don't pursue
July '09 ~ contact SW but unresponsive
November 5, '09 ~ meet w/ parents, want to place w/ us, GAL thinks it can work, DSS disagrees
November 23, '09 ~ TPR continued until February
February 9, '10 ~ permanency hearing
~~~Are we adopting him? Are we not adopting him? Can we please get a straight answer!?~~~
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