[savangelo]

I am new to this site and desperate for advice and support. I feel completely lost and alone these days. I'm 25 years old (almost 26) and nearly 13 weeks pregnant. The father of this baby has completely disappeared and made it very clear that he wants nothing to do with it. I have told my mother and she has told me that she will not help me in anyway, so its just me. I am trying to make the decision whether or not to give this baby up for adoption and can't figure out how someone even makes the decision. People keep telling me that I will just "know" what is right, but so far I am just confused. On one side I want to give this child a stable home with 2 parents and all the opportunities in the world, but I keep thinking that nothing is guaranteed. My mother gave a child up for adoption when she was 18 and the adopted father passed away when the child was very young, so he ended up being raised by a single mother despite the adoption. Its not like I am too young, and I will be finished with nursing school by the time the baby is 9 months old, but I dont know if that is enough to justify keeping this child. I am afraid if I keep the child I will never end up married, and the baby will never get that traditional family life that I feel is important. I guess I feel selfish keeping it, but afraid I will regret it if I give it up. I would appreciate anyone's advice as to how they made the decision, whether you regret it or not, just anything would help me at this point. Thank you all!