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Old 06-17-2009, 11:40 AM
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Originally Posted by txwannabemom
If your clothes aren't washed you will have to wear dirty clothes.


Sooooo true! I'm wearing three day old jeans right now because I haven't done the laundry. I've been spring cleaning (emptying out closets, etc.) and laundry wasn't on the list! lol

Back to the OP, I think the thing to remember is that this girl has every right to be angry. What you have to do is find a positive outlet for that anger. She's 11, right? Is she into music yet? Maybe you could get her to start writing her own songs. Do you know how to play an instrument that you can teach her? Music is a HUGE outlet for negative emotions.

As for discipline, pick your battles. Make sure that the battles you deem important you win but try not to make everything a power struggle. If she doesn't make her bed, is it that big of a problem? A more serious issue would be if she hid food under her bed and it rotted and started to make the house smell. See what I mean? Let her get used to your family, home, and rules before you start expecting her to abide by them.

Good luck!!
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