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reuntited with son ..after 32 years.
prompted me to contact my dad ..
rang and was given info he passed away on my birthday 3 years ago..ironic..
picture my mother painted was inaccurate ..
i have 7 1/2 brothers and sisters all knew of me as dad had spoken..of his boy from oz...
me and my dad were the same in many ways..
my relationship with my mum has been affected ..i accept she controlled and before i rang the other day said just tell me the truth....
she said your dad wanted nothing to do with you..
my sister said ..your family ..had arranged for you to have a cord at your dads funeral if you turned up ...thats how much we care..(matter of respect..as one oldest sons tradition .)
all want contact and are pleased to hear from me.
regards my mum.....i can only love her...
experience of how to deal with the situation was just not their
and in hindsight could have been handled in other manner.....a phone call or whatever ..but it was not meant to be ...surreal and rollercoaster keeps on going still have to work on my relationship with my son..
my other brother wants no contact with other family members ..unfortunately i held back as i did not want to upset the apple cart.
respect his and my mums wishes be polite yet assertive on my rights on the situation.
no expectaions .....call was enough and my sidter said she will put the kettle on.
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