[oceanica]

I am in oa for my 2 babies, pure and simple.
However, of course I feel grateful to their bmoms, and want to honor their wishes, and want to do what I can to make them feel good.
The main thing is that I want them to stay involved, and keep in contact, so that when the babies get bigger they will know them. That's for the babies. But don't get me wrong, I am thankful too. They are both very young, and will no doubt go on to a lot more life ahead of them. Already the contact is all coming from me, and there are times when my daughter's bmom disappears. So what can I do to keep them interested and involved, as well as help them understand how thankful I am? What can I do if anything to help with the suffering they are going through?
(I am looking for constructive advice from bmoms in oa, so if you are an angry person from the closed era, I'm sorry, however it may not apply here.)