[kakuehl]

Confused, I hear what you are saying about your situation. I think you need to do what you believe is right for your child regardless of what others say.

I think we have to remember that our birthchildren have grown up wondering about both parents. They don't have the baggage with their bfather that the bmom often does. They may want to see for themselves what both their bparents are like. All of change over the years and many of us mature! The bdad they find may well have grown up!