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Bdads ...
So I understand how it seems fair to ask about the bdad but what I dont get is how people who have been adopted forgive them so easily. I am currently pregnant and I fear for the life of my child and myself that the bdad will put a stop to this adoption. I love my child and have decided that giving him a family; rather than the hell I grew up with, is what is best for him! The bdad thinks that I am trying to take away his chance of being a dad but the man doesnt even know how to do laundry,or cook (let alone keep food in the fridge), nor does he live in a place that is suitable for a child. I fully respect that he is not one of those guys who doesn't care what happens to his kids but where is the line of doing what is truely best for the child and making the child suffer so he can be a dad?!
I am 19 and while I have several friends my age who are single parents and going to school full time plus working fulltime to support their child.. I don't think that is fair to the child. I cannot give my child everything that I think he deserves in my current situation but I look like the bad guy for not wantin to keep my child. How is that fair?!
My parents can't stand eachother and I grew up hating them both for making my brothers and I choose one over the other. My mom gave custody of us to our dad and then when we were old enough to take care of ourselves (16) she wanted to be apart of our lives. It doesn't work that way. I don't want that life for my child and I don't think that is soo wrong!
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