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Dickons, you just summed it up. No matter how much we adult adoptees talk and talk and talk about adoption in an effort to educate, people hear only what they want to hear.
So often after talking to prospective aparents over countless emails, at the end I still hear things like "why take the chance of adopting a child in the US and having their birth parents come along and reclaim custody...we chose China because the birth mothers lose all rights to their child right away - forever. we want our child to view US as their only parents."
It always makes my head want to explode. I'm like, ARRRGG! You completely missed the point!
It's so emotionally exhausting and sometimes I wonder why I ever bother. But then I realize somewhere down the road what I say will make a difference with at least one aparent, and they will be a much better parent to their adopted kid.
I can't change the world's twisted view on adoption, but I can drastically influence how one adopted child will be raised. That makes it worth the effort.
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