[haykevin]

Prior to my wife and I getting married she had a child at the age of 16. Her mother forced her to give the child up for adoption. For years she has had to deal with this horrible situation and vowed to try to find her son as soon as he turned 18. When we marrried her son was about 16 years old. At about a 6 months prior to his 18th birthday I began to search for him. It took me about 3 months before I could locate him. Once he turned 18 she reached out to him. It was a very successful and joyous reuion. It has now been about 9 years since the reuion. We all (my wife, myself, our children and his apotive parents & family) have a very wonderful relationship. It is truely one big happy family. The birthfather, for the most part, has been out of the picture as he was in prison. He was recently released and now he wants to have a reuion with my wife and their child. My wife wants to have the meeting because she says her son wants it and she wants him to be happy and to share in the first meeting with his birthfather. I am very angry and can't really express why. The birthfather contacted my wife about 7 years ago and it caused problems between my wife and I. He, in so many words, expressed his undying love for her and said that the reuion with their son gave him hope. My wife is very emotionally attached to this situation (I don't mean attached to the birthfather). The situation I am refering to is making sure her son and his birthfather have a good relationship and being part of all of their first. I am afraid that this situation is consuming. Has anyone else experience anything similar. Any thoughts would be helpful.