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I wanted to add.. register with the state or agency, too. Maybe she's looking. How long has she been 18?
If she just turned 18, I'd wait a while. Let her get settled into college (or life) a little.
She might be living with her parents, still. So, I would see if she's on Facebook, on online registries, or if you can find an e-mail address. Don't say exaclty the details, just that you gave up a baby on 10-10-1990 (whenever) and that you are wondering if she might be that child. That way you're not breaking news, but asking.
I wouldn't send a letter to her house, unless you know she's not still living with her parents. I would definitely NOT contact her parents. As an adoptee, I would be TICKED if my birthparents contacted my parents-- instead of me-- if I was 18 or over. You don't know what kind of relationship that she has with them. And, if you contact them they might wonder if she's been searching. She'd have to have the awkward talk with them about whether or not she wants contact. Contact the (of age) kid directly. Give her contact details, and ask if she MIGHT be the one (without saying that she absolutely is). If she's interested, she'll e-mail/message back and ask more questions. It's HER decision when and IF she wants to tell her parents about her contact with you. Sure, the parents might be upset if she doesn't tell them, or that you contacted her, but this is about the kid (18+ or above) here, and not the parents. It's her call if she wants contact. I would try to make casual, non-dramatic online contact just asking if she might be the person you're looking for. Let her decide who (if anyone) to tell about her contact with you, and let her tell you directly. (Of course, you could have a relative, agency, or someone message her online if she has a social profile or public e-mail address so you don't have to hear the news directly.) Be aware that she may or may not be interested, and may not respond how you're hooping. She's young and may or may not be ready-- but that's up for her to decide, not her parents, I'd say.
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