[ChelleBrewer]

Originally Posted by Indiaadoptee

1. Don’t leave your crying baby alone, thinking they will just calm themselves. I know it is so often the practice to make your baby cry himself to sleep, especially here in the U.S., but your new baby has already been through such a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety. The last thing they want to do is forced to experience that all over again-be in such a stressful state that they fall asleep exhausted from crying.

2. I highly recommend anyone who adopts to not use the disrespectful terms “birthmother”, “birthfather” and “birthparents”, or “biological” child. These terms, which are fed to us by the adoption industry, are used to make human beings appear to be unrelated to their own family members. The terms “mother”, “father,”, “family member”, “natural mother”, “first mother” are accurate, respectful and nonderogatory terms.

I absolutely agree with these sentiments. Others, not so much, but absolutely these. These are also really important for any child who has a chronic illness and has spent extended periods of time unable to be held or nurtured, except what is allowable by health professionals.