|
Sounds like you're in a bind. Hope everything gets straightened out ok for everyone involved, including baby. I can understand your reluctance as far as paying for the medical expenses for the delivery, but here's what I figure. This child will be born in Sept. Whether or not the child is biologically yours, you and your wife obviously love him/her, otherwise you would not be adopting. DH and I are currently matched with an expectant mom who is due in August. We are not related to her, we are not related to the child; but do you know that if she did not have coverage for her delivery, we would have to pay for it? (she was recently approved for Medicaid) That is our duty as adoptive parents. We want the child, so we have to pay for the delivery. There are 2 ways of looking at this: either 1) you are the biological father, and Medicaid is going to come after you anyway because THEY feel its your responsibility OR 2) you are not the biological father, but the prospective adoptive father, in which case you MAY be expected to cover these types of expenses. I can understand that Georgia may have strict rules on what you can spend on the expectant mother; every state is different. But medical expenses would be the one thing that I would think 90% of states WOULD allow. It's not like clothing or other things which could potentially be optional. If you want a healthy baby, she needs prenatal care, and she needs to be able to deliver comfortable (or as comfortable as you can get while in labor). I know its difficult because of the situation you are in, but think of it as you're doing this for your son/daughter, not necessarily for the expectant mom. Good luck!
|