((( Kathy )))
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wonder, in some ways my experience seems like it was easier than so many of you....In those ways, my story is so different
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Buddy, you know I love ya to death, so please don't take what I say next the wrong way. I've tried to figure out how to phrase things and the only thing I can do is paraphrase through story. So here goes:
I had two friends in my real-time life who were raped. (Though I'm sure I probably knew more they just never talked about it.
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One was raped in college by a guy she'd been dating for 3 years who attacked her during a party where they were both drinking. She said no, he said yes. That was pretty much that.
The other was on Six Mile. She was in her driveway, unlocking her car to go to work one morning in the winter when a stranger came up from behind her, slammed her head into a brick wall, raped her and left her laying there by her car. Her dad found her 20 minutes later when he was coming out to go to work.
Do you know what the difference is between those two situations?
Nothing. Nada. Not one dang thing. Rape is assault.
And relinquishing a child is just as painful in your situation as it was in anyone else's.
Sure, the details might vary. One girl knew her attacker well. The other didn't know the guy at all. One girl was attacked in a warm dorm room; the other in an ice-covered driveway.
That doesn't change the violent intent behind what happened to them. The emotions, the fear, the long road back from what they each went through; that's the same path.
Don't do this too yourself. Your grief, your regret, your sorrow, your journey back to yourself and your son have every bit as much merit as anyone else's and deserves every bit as much respect.
((( Kathy )))