I have not yet experienced, like most of you getting a child then having to give it back to a family who is still struggling. I right now am trying hard to avoid that. DH and I also are a Christian Family and have shielded our boys and raised them in a home to know Jesus. Our boys are very easy kids, extremely well behaved and love God. To watch my boys sadness just "hearing" about some of the kids we were called about..makes me more aware of the fact that I have to take kids who have a better chance of being "adoptable" That means a longer process and maybe not finding a child at all. But we have to do what is right for our kids. The system IS broken and I am aware of that as I know people who have fostered and the stories vary from sad to scary. But in the end, it SHOULD be about the welfare of the children, though in lots of cases its not the case..and that is sad. I know for my hubby and I, we would love the chance to foster kids when all our children are grown...but for us..today...we want to adopt. I don't think either of us are ready for all the pain and sadness these kids are going through..neither are our boys. But I do believe someday when it God's time we will be ready for that. I have such a deep respect for all foster parents...to love a child and then have to let them go. So even if the system IS not great and I get frustrated..I rely on my faith to help me through things. I know in the end..though the system can and will fail..God does not!
