Finished classes, but now we are scared! Long.
Let me start by saying we have 3 biological sons, ages almost 7yrs and 3.5yr old twins. We originally wanted to do foster to adopt for a girl younger than our oldest. We also said we would take a sibling set of 2. We since have said we would consider a boy depending the the situation.
After our last class last night we are so confused. It was all about when a child comes into our home rules we should have, privacy issues, etc. I understand the need for a door alarm, but how do you respect privacy of the foster child by following them everywhere they go. Also the bathroom is right outside our other boys rooms. As for privacy all I can say that experienced moms would understand, we have 3yr old boys! They frequently walk around without pants on , we are working on them dressing themselves which one refuses to do. anyways my dh said he didn't realize how much life would change. Do we all have to wear robes? When do we take the alarm off a childs door, after we adopt? Can we not cuddle in our bed the way we do now? I am asking because the SW scared us. We have no problem with respect, but what do you do with biolgical kids who still walk in on you in the bathroom, my oldest is told not to, but truely doesn't get it.
Sorry this is so long. I don't mean to sound stupid, I just wanted to know if some things in our house will remain ok and normal(kids allowed to stay in jammies all day sometimes), etc.
Thank you for any ecouragement.
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