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Originally Posted by sbaglio
I think that men are expected to be distant from the whole adoption process (and many arguably are, from what people have written on a.com). It is often the wife who takes the initiative to contact agencies, prepare for the homestudy, make the profile, etc. Thus the irritating questions from some agencies. It's great that you're involved from the start.
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I can see how that could happen; however I think by agencies boxing the men out then they are feeding into that behavior too. If I wasn't the kind of guy I am then I would have just said "fine talk to my wife" and not bother. The way I feel is if WE are bringing a child into OUR home then WE both should be involved in all aspects of the process.
My wife and I read books together and I post on here. She has posted too a couple of times but I am more of a computer person so she will just tell me what question she has and I will post the question.
I also guess that since times are changing more Dads are involved. I noticed in our MAPP classes that we took there were more Single Fathers.
Time for a change I think.
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Mr. Cris, married to a wonderful woman.
10/20/08- Orientation about Foster care and Adoption
11/1/08- Started MAPP Classes
1/31/09- Received MAPP Certificate of completion
3/17/09- Received background check clearance
5/27/09-Home study officially approved 
6/29/09- Home Officially opened and on "THE LIST"
8/13/09- Received license in the mail
11/13/09-  rang regarding a 2 month old  and 2 year old as possible matches
11/16/09- Paternal Family filed papers for custody of 2 year old :sad:
11/17/09- Informed 2 month old actually a  and judge wants her placed in Pre-adoptive home ASAP
11/23/09- Told Foster Mom wants to try keep 2 month old. Waiting for Law guardian decision
Patiently waiting to hear more 
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