|
IT's so hard to say exactly what is going on, but it's so soon since she gave birth and from my experience, the first year after I placed my child was by far the very hardest. I was only allowed a 6 week picture and a 6 month picture and from then on, it was up to the aparents whether or not they wanted to send anything. I was lucky that they almost always responded to my request for updates, but I only got them 1x per year, sometimes 1x every other year, and it was usually just one photo. Things were very different when I was placing.
I would have certainly liked to get more photos, but I'm not sure if every week or every other week would have been too much for me, especially in that first year. I think if it was too much, I would have expressed that to the social worker and asked to receive stuff maybe once a month, but again, it's so hard to know for sure exactly how I would have felt. Maybe your child's bmom is afraid to say anything for fear if she asks for less, she'll be perceived negatively. Maybe she is fine with getting the pictures as is, but doesn't know what to say in response. I know for me, I used to request updates through the agency but it was always very hard for me to write an update on myself.
My advice would be to continue with what you are doing unless and until you hear otherwise. If you stop sending stuff, the bmom may feel you are backing off. You could maybe drop her a note next time and ask her if she is OK with the frequency of the photos, and encourage her to let you know if it's too much, not enough, etc. In time, you will find the right balance.
|