[kg02]

Hi,

My wife and I are 2.5 weeks away from bringing a 6.5 year old girl into our home. We have a transition plan in place with the girl's foster mom of 3 years, where the little girl has slowly built up to spend the last couple of weekend nights with us.

Each weekend she goes back to her foster mom for the week, and each time the foster mom seems to over react to the little girl's appearance or the things she says. This morning she called asking about a small scrape she had on her knee from crawling around on the rug with the dogs, since the little girl said my younger son had done it with nail clippers. She said she was going to call the on-call social worker to come out and have her look at it.

Children's services reacted very supportively last weekend when she made similar comments, but it feels like this woman is trying to undermine the little girl's placement in our home. The girl is confused about the whole process so she is definitely testing her loyalties to her foster mom when she is with us, and vice-versa when she is back in with the foster mom.

My question to the board is whether anyone else has had this type of experience, where a foster parent(s) has been so confrontational to the pre-adoptive placement. We know there is only 2.5 weeks before she is with us, and we know her social worker believes in us and the placement, but it feels like we are punched in the gut after each visit because of this woman. We know the foster mom cares about the little girl, but we just don't understand her motivation to continually harass us.

Thanks for letting me vent.

K